Que the opening (and closing) line from the well-known movie “Pretty Woman” :
“What’s your Dream? Everybody’s got a Dream… What’s your Dream?”
I have heard that line going thru my mind more times than I care to count over the last few months.
Because “Hopeless” equals “Dreamless”, and there sure hasn’t been a lot of Hope in people’s lives for far too long.
Too many people have been shattered mentally, emotionally, physically and financially over the past few years due to the economy, natural disasters, other people and assorted loses.
If you stop and look around, you’ll see it on far too many people’s faces. Or worse still – in the mirror on your own face. If you ask other people what their “Dream” is today – most will answer that it is “just to survive”. Their “Dreams” have died, and been replaced with “just surviving” day-to-day. They have no more “Dreams”, and very little (if any) Hope.
They feel as if they are trapped in a nightmare that they “can’t” wake-up from. Although they desperately want to – they just can’t see how to.
Because of this bleak state of affairs, it’s time to try to help do something about it. It’s time to “teach” ourselves how to “Hope” and “Dream” again.
There’s only one way to do that – we’ve got to “re-train” our thinking. Sounds complicated, I know, and it’s not easy – but, it’s vitally necessary.
We’ve got to do a little “Mental Exercise”. How? Like so:
1) Grab a sheet of paper, find a quiet place where you can focus, and write down 3 things (Little Things) that you would like to see come to pass in your life in the near future. (i.e.: Re-paint a room, Find a new job, complete a project, pay a certain bill, change your hair color, fix your car, join a club/group, go on a “Day Trip”, visit a far away friend or relative – you get the idea) The trick is to keep the 3 things simple and manageable. Don’t start off with BIG things that you can’t really see happening in your lifetime – yet. The key is that it needs to be something that you actually WANT to do/accomplish.
2) Label that page “Immediate Hopes/Dreams” , date it, and keep it with you (or at least where you can see it everyday) and READ IT OUT LOUD to yourself at least once a day. (This IS important)
3) As those things come to pass, check them off and write down the Date when they occurred.
4) After item #2 on your list manifests, make another list with 3 more items that are a little bigger than the last 3. Things that you would like to see happen in the next few months. Keep it with you as well, and read it OUT LOUD also.
By the time you reach this point, you will be starting to be able to wrap your mind around “Dreams” and “Possibilities” again.
They don’t have to be BIG yet – give yourself some time. You didn’t lose your “Hope” and forget how to “Dream” overnight – that took several incidents and some time. But, slowly, you will begin to be able to start seeing past tomorrow – and you’ll start to feel the “hopelessness” that has been weighing you down disappear….. One completed Dream/Goal at a time, as you start looking forward to “something” again.
You’ve got to get your Focus OFF of today. You’ve got to start seeing/focusing on something better. Even if it is only a “small” thing. You’ve got to start somewhere – especially if you don’t want anymore of what you have/see now!
You have to “imagine” your Dream BEFORE you will ever see it. You don’t have to figure out all of the details of HOW it could possibly come to pass in your life, you just have to have a goal/dream to be aiming for. A DESIRED end result – NOT a dreaded one!!
By READING it daily, and SPEAKING it out loud (off of your list), you will start to believe/see it on the inside. What comes out of YOUR mouth often enough, you will hear yourself saying – and THEN you will start to believe it’s possible. THEN you will start to see it coming to pass in your life, because you are now focusing on that “Good” thing – instead of the “Bad” things around you that you don’t want anymore of.
Now, I know there are those of you who are so locked into a doubt/survival mode that they can’t imagine this working – BUT, why don’t you try it anyways???
Exactly WHAT do you have to lose by giving it a shot? What could it possibly hurt to try?
I’ve seen this work. I know it works – from experience. BUT, it only works IF you “work it”. No one else can do it for you.
Start rebuilding your “Hope” and your “Dreams” today. You have to start somewhere….. You CAN do it! Start small – remember, you have to take baby steps before you can run (dream big) again. But, you can do it. YOU just have to WANT to. No one else can do it for you. 😉