Finding Hope pt. 3 “Balance”


Now for the fun part! Yes, I said “FUN”.

When we become “survival minded” and are only focusing on “existing” thru the day, we lose our Balance. We only focus on situations, problems, worry, work and the here-and-now. We mentally, and physically, exhaust ourselves – and as we all know, mental exhaustion is MUCH worse than physical exhaustion.

So, now that we are learning how to Hope and Dream again, it is time to take the next step. We need to give our life, and minds, some Balance.

Before our lives/situations took the turns that they did over the past few years, we used to take time out to “Play”. We used to take mental breaks from reality and do things that we really enjoyed. Then, due to the economy, situations in our lives, stress – we stopped. Either due to the lack of finances, ability or interest. Thus, helping plunge ourselves into the mental states that we’ve recently found ourselves in.


Now, we need to start doing something about that!

First step:  Give yourself permission!!

Taking a “time-out” from your life/circumstances/situations DOES NOT make you irresponsible (because you are not spending every waking second of your life worrying/trying to DO something about everything). It makes you healthier, and much more stable mentally and emotionally.

Think about a Pressure Cooker pot. Eventually, it’s going to “blow” if no one ever turns the heat down, or takes the pot off of the burner. It’s the same with you! The only difference is that only YOU are in charge of “removing the pot from the burner” for a period of time, when it comes to your life.

So, “It’s OK” to take a momentary time-out from life – if only for an afternoon, or for a day.  But, YOU have to do it!  Your own mental/emotional well-being depends on it. By taking a break from your “reality”, you’ll be able to think more clearly, and more calmly. You will feel a lot less frazzled, and less confused/stuck.


Second step:  Follow through!

Now that you’ve given yourself permission to take some time for yourself – DO IT!!

Schedule a morning/afternoon/day where you can do whatever it is that you need to do to re-charge your mental batteries. It may be just staying home by yourself (Turn that phone OFF!), and curling up on the sofa to read a good book; a long walk thru the woods to enjoy the scenery; a day sitting on the shore/boat fishing; a leisurely afternoon window shopping; a lengthy visit to your local coffee-house; a short driving trip to go “antiqueing”, or sight-seeing; or just WHATEVER!!! Just DO something that you enjoy in order to unwind.  Your brain will thank you later – and so will those people who have to live with you!   😉   

Another great option is to join a local club or group, who shares your interest in something – and that meets for an hour or two on a regular basis. Contact your local Chamber of Commerce, or newspaper, to find listings for groups/meetings in your area – or at least close to you.

Don’t have a group in your area? Start one!!

It’s really not as hard as you would imagine. Just mention your interest in starting such a group to your co-workers, friends, church congregation, etc.,  and ask them if they would be interested in attending. If 4 or more people say “Yes”, then ask them what time of day/day of the week would work the best for them. Now, average out the answers that you get to decide on a meeting schedule. Now you just need a place to meet.

There are several options here. Your group could meet at a local eatery that has private “rooms”, a local church’s fellowship hall or basement,  you could host the meeting at a different members home/garage on a rotating basis, or even in a covered shelter at your local pool/park. These are just some ideas. The local park/pool is also a GREAT option for those who would have to bring young children with them in order to attend.   🙂  

You could meet once a month, once every 2 weeks, once a week – or however often you decide. I know of groups of ladies who meet like this JUST to play cards, and get out of their house!


The whole point is to bring some BALANCE back to your life, and take some time for yourself (like a child – just to PLAY!!!).

Far too many of us have forgotten how to do just that – and we desperately need to re-learn how to do that again!

1) Kids Play

2)  Kids Imagine

3)  Kids Dream

4)  Kids Hope

5) Kids Laugh

When we become “Adults” we forget how to do all of those things – not by choice. But it IS by choice that we can learn how to do them again – if only for a few hours every week. We NEED to! We MUST!!

We’ve now covered the first 4 things on that list  – number 5 will take care of itself once we start doing the first 4!   😉 

So, get to it….and

Be Blessed!!




Finding Hope pt. 2


Okay, now that you’ve got your list made from part 1 (previous post), we’re going to start working on the next step. It’s easy – but it requires another list.   😉  

How many of you saw the movie “America’s Sweethearts”? Do you remember John Cusacks’ character siting in the backseat of the limo, stressed out, and chanting “I’m grateful for the cool, cool breeze….” to calm himself down?

If so, that gives you an idea of what we are about to do next.   🙂  

And by the way – if you haven’t yet seen the movie, I highly recommend it!!! It deals with someone (Cusack) whose life/heart had been destroyed by someone else (Catherine Zeta-Jones), causing him to have a nervous breakdown, and he has to learn how to think clearly/live again while “working” with that person (and with Billy Crystal and Julia Roberts too – FUNNY stuff!!).

But, I digress….. back to the subject at hand.   🙂   


I want you to once again grab a sheet of paper, and find a quiet place to focus. Now, title this list: “Things I Am gratefully For”. 

Next, I want you to list as many things as you can think of that you are the most grateful for. I’ll give you a short example list:

1) I’m grateful for my home, and a roof over my head.

2) I’m grateful for the fact I have a  job – and for the income from it.

3)  I’m grateful for the food I have to eat.

4) I’m grateful for the clothes I have to wear today…..etc., etc…


I want you to list as many things as you can think of right now – it can be 5 things, 10 things, 20 things or more. If you are GRATEFUL it is a part of your life right now – list it!!

Now, tape that list up on your bathroom mirror where you will have to look at it first thing every morning! Read it out loud BEFORE  you start your day – EVERYDAY.  Sure, you can read it throughout the day too, but starting out everyday by reading this list out loud is the MOST important thing!

It sets your mindset for the day, and it sets the tone for the start of your day. When you start out by looking at something GOOD, it’s then easier to deal with the rest of your day because you are focusing your mind on the things you appreciate – NOT on all of the junky bad things that are trying to get your minds attention the second that you open your eyes! It puts your mood, and focus, in a different place.

If your list is small today – don’t worry about it, use it! You can add things to the list as you think of them. The only “Rule” for the list is that you don’t turn it into a prideful “Brag” list.  It’s not a “Look what I did” list – it’s a list of things you are grateful for that are in your life. It must be worded so that everything on the list was a GIFT. No “I’m grateful I did/accomplished/made someone …” lists, ONLY an  “I’m grateful for (this opportunity, blessing, gift)…” list. This IS important!!

Now, go make your lists.    😉  













Finding Hope



Que the opening (and closing) line from the well-known movie “Pretty Woman” :

What’s your Dream? Everybody’s got a Dream… What’s your Dream?”


I have heard that line going thru my mind more times than I care to count over the last few months.


Because “Hopeless” equals “Dreamless”, and there sure hasn’t been a lot of Hope in people’s lives for far too long.

Too many people have been shattered mentally, emotionally, physically and financially over the past few years due to the economy, natural disasters, other people and assorted loses.

If you stop and look around, you’ll see it on far too many people’s faces. Or worse still – in the mirror on your own face. If you ask other people what their “Dream” is today – most will answer that it is “just to survive”. Their “Dreams” have died, and been replaced with “just surviving” day-to-day. They have no more “Dreams”, and very little (if any) Hope.

They feel as if they are trapped in a nightmare that they “can’t” wake-up from. Although they desperately want to – they just can’t see how to.

Because of this bleak state of affairs, it’s time to try to help do something about it. It’s time to “teach” ourselves how to “Hope” and “Dream” again.

There’s only one way to do that – we’ve got to “re-train” our thinking. Sounds complicated, I know, and it’s not easy – but, it’s vitally necessary.

We’ve got to do a little “Mental Exercise”. How? Like so: 


1) Grab a sheet of paper, find a quiet place where you can focus, and write down 3 things (Little Things) that you would like to see come to pass in your life in the near future. (i.e.: Re-paint a room, Find a new job, complete a project, pay a certain bill, change your hair color, fix your car, join a club/group, go on a “Day Trip”, visit a far away friend or relative – you get the idea) The trick is to keep the 3 things simple and manageable. Don’t start off with BIG things that you can’t really see happening in your lifetime – yet. The key is that it needs to be something that you actually WANT to do/accomplish.


2) Label that page “Immediate Hopes/Dreams” , date it, and keep it with you (or at least where you can see it everyday) and READ IT OUT LOUD to yourself at least once a day. (This IS important)


3) As those things come to pass, check them off and write down the Date when they occurred.


4) After item #2 on your list manifests, make another list  with 3 more items that are a little bigger than the last 3. Things that you would like to see happen in the next few months. Keep it with you as well, and read it OUT LOUD also.


By the time you reach this point, you will be starting to be able to wrap your mind around “Dreams” and “Possibilities” again.

They don’t have to be BIG yet – give yourself some time. You didn’t lose your “Hope” and forget how to “Dream” overnight – that took several incidents and some time. But, slowly, you will begin to be able to start seeing past tomorrow – and you’ll start to feel the “hopelessness”  that has been weighing you down disappear….. One completed Dream/Goal at a time, as you start looking forward to “something” again.

You’ve got to get your Focus OFF of today. You’ve got to start seeing/focusing on something better. Even if it is only a “small” thing. You’ve got to start somewhere – especially if you don’t want anymore of what you have/see now!

You have to “imagine” your Dream BEFORE you will ever see it. You don’t have to figure out all of the details of HOW it could possibly come to pass in your life, you just have to have a goal/dream to be aiming for. A DESIRED end result – NOT a dreaded one!!

By READING it daily, and SPEAKING it out loud (off of your list), you will start to believe/see it on the inside. What comes out of YOUR mouth often enough, you will hear yourself saying  –  and THEN you will start to believe it’s possible. THEN you will start to see it coming to pass in your life, because you are now focusing on that “Good” thing – instead of the “Bad” things around you that you don’t want anymore of.


Now, I know there are those of you who are so locked into a doubt/survival mode that they can’t imagine this working – BUT, why don’t you try it anyways???

Exactly WHAT do you have to lose by giving it a shot? What could it possibly hurt to try?

I’ve seen this work. I know it works – from experience. BUT, it only works IF you “work it”. No one else can do it for you.

Start rebuilding your “Hope” and your “Dreams” today. You have to start somewhere….. You CAN do it! Start small – remember, you have to take baby steps before you can run (dream big) again. But, you can do it. YOU just have to WANT to. No one else can do it for you.    😉  






Good Morning Everybody!!

For weeks months now I have been just inches/seconds away from pressing the “Delete” button on this Blog…..

Pressing a button that would forever erase 100’s, no 1000’s of hours of my life, hard work and memories over the last year and a half of my life.

(Yes – That is what you think it is….. I took the above photo last month right over my house – from my front porch – with my phone!! Scary, but it stopped right there with no damage! I wasn’t in the mood for it that day, so I’m sure I looked like a Crazy Woman standing outside yelling at it to “GO AWAY!!”  and “telling it off”, but I didn’t really care at the time, LOL.)

Why had I been thinking of  “Deleting” this Blog?

Because of those whom we shall call “The Critics”, as my all-to-wise son has aptly  “named”  them. Those who stalk this Blog looking for items to criticize me about, or thoughts I’ve posted to fuel the dissention/strife that they wish to live/participate in. Those who are more interested in bringing you grief, than bringing you a smile. Those who are already forming scathing e-mail responses in their minds to the few words that I’ve just written.

We all have them to deal with in our own lives – in different capacities. The difference is in how we let them affect us/our lives.

If I were to hit the “Delete” button – then they win. They “silence” my existence/thoughts and move on to the next person that they wish to monitor/control. And there will always be someone for them to focus on – they will “find them”….. It is all they know.

This Blog is a way to share my creativity with the world.  It is a way for me to share with you the beauty that I come into contact with everyday.  A way to share my thoughts with more than just my “four walls”.  A way to stay connected with those who are too far away from me  for me to just hop in the car and drive over for a visit.  A way to “send” a photo of my world/seasons/flowers/goings-on’s to my friends in other states/countries who are still dealing with ice/snow/dreariness/natural disasters/chaos, and give them a smile when they need it most.  A way to send them some “lifting up”/encouragement/hope that whatever situation they may be dealing with that day – they are not really “alone”.  To give them hope that they can/will get thru it – one day at a time….. Like eating an elephant!     😉    

A way to remind others that “this too shall pass”;  and that while “picking up all of the broken pieces” is one of the hardest things that we will ever have to do – if we want to have any hope for tomorrow to be better, then it MUST be done in order to “live” again.  To smile again.  To be a Blessing to someone else who desperately needs some “Hope” themselves.  To give some encouragement/courage to those who are going thru whatever it is that you have already went thru (not stayed-in, went THRU). 

To help build someone else up, and to give them a “smile” when they feel like they have nothing left to smile about.  To let them know that there is someone else out there, who has to deal with the same kinds of “craziness” that has visited their house that week.  To remind them to find Joy (if only for a moment in time) in the sunrise/sunset/pretty flower/crazy animal antic that is occurring right in front of them – if they will only stop long enough to see it.

So, I am not closing this Blog.  It helps too many others, if only for a moment in time.  Those it offends – that is their CHOICE….. and they can choose NOT to read it.  I am listening to my son and choosing to no-longer listen  to “The Critics” – but  to listen instead to my heart, my God, and do what makes me happy while it ministers/teaches/helps/build-up others, and brings a smile to someone elses’ tear-stained face. If only for a moment in their world.

To write what gives someone else hope that they too can make it thru the chaos/pain/fear that is going on around them that day; because someone else has already gone thru it – or is going thru it with them from afar.

That they are not completely alone – the world is “crazy” everywhere, and there is someone else out there dealing with something too.  It gives others a “break” from their own reality, while they focus on someone elses’ life/circumstances/chaos/victory.  And sometimes,  just sometimes, this Blog even teaches you how to bake some awesome “yummy thing” to surprise your family with; or even inspires/teaches you how to make some “pretty thing” to make you (or someone else) smile.     🙂    

No, I’m not closing my Blog.

I think I will just write more to really piss the critics off.    😉   

I’m here to stay – for as long as God will allow. So….

God Bless, and

Have a Great Day!!!     😉